How to Get Rid of Rejection
At times you look down on yourself and you think you’re not good enough because you experience rejection. You allow people to define who you are. But you must understand that rejection is very common and it happens to everyone. The fact that you experience rejection does not make you less than you are.
The fear of rejection can hold you back from what life has to offer. It can hinder you from chasing what you value the most. One way to overcome this is to feel the fear and go for it. Now, It is very possible to overcome rejection. Quickly, let’s look at how to overcome it.
1. Pay less attention to it
“The less you speak out what you thought, the less power it will have to be your truth”. -Bishop T.D Jakes
Whenever you feel rejected, do not spend all your time analyzing the scenario. Learn to let it go. Because the more you entertain it, the more you begin to see reasons to blame yourself, and the more you dwell on this thought, the more you make it a reality in your life. This is one thing that I’ve practiced and it has helped me. Whenever I experience rejection, I pay less attention to it.
I know it can be a bit hard to let go of this feeling of rejection but I’ve learned to take control of my mind and try to focus on other things. For example, maybe it could be a job you applied for and they never called you back. Or your dream school, and you never got in, or you were never invited to the party. Try as much as you can and don’t focus on these experiences. instead, channel that energy into what gives you utmost joy and focus on that.
2. Reject negative self-talk
One thing rejection brings is what I call “self-blame”. It makes you blame yourself for what is not even a reality. You start telling yourself “I’m not good enough for the job”. “Maybe I’m not that cute that’s why she never gave me attention”. These negative talks may not even be the truth, but the more you blame yourself, the more you make it a reality in your life. The first thing you must learn to do is to appreciate who you are. When you do that the second thing is never to speak negatively because something didn’t turn out the way you expected it to. The greatest tragedy is for an individual to dis-value himself. Stop speaking negative things to yourself.
3. Go for what you want
Do not let the fear of rejection hinder you from doing something you really want to do. Fearing rejection can hold you back from taking risks and reaching for big goals. You need to put the fear aside and go for it anyway. It can hold you back from experiencing the best. You will never know if you will be rejected or accepted until you try. Even if you try and fail, do it again. That’s how you get closer to achieving success.
If you want to start writing your book, go ahead and start it. Stop worrying if anyone will ever read it. You will never know until you face this fear and go for what you want. Purse what you want; do it even while you’re scared. The bottom line is to go for It. Don’t let fear hold you back from achieving success.
4. See it as a sign of blessing
On the bright side, rejections can be a blessing. Not all things that look good are beneficial to you. Sometimes when something doesn’t work out for you it could be for your good. That job that rejected you, what if that’s not where you belong? What if there’s somewhere higher and bigger for you? If you’re not sensitive you would feel demoralized about everything and think you’re not worth it.
Rejections can be hurtful but always see the good even in the bad. That’s how to overcome it. Your interpretation towards rejection matters a lot. If you need to work on yourself, go ahead and do it. I’m not saying rejection is pleasant, but understand that there’s always something good out there for you. So if you’re rejected today, don’t fret about it. It could be your breakthrough for tomorrow.
